Secondly, you’ve also lied to this 19 year old who doesn’t know you and thinks you are 18, which could put her in trouble legally. I agree with everyone who has said this wide of a gap in life circumstances is a problem. I’m guessing she might not even know you are a hs junior?

If it is, the offense is generally statutory rape. Though it may not be illegal to date, there may be the temptation to engage in a sexual relationship, which could lead to statutory rape charges. Remember that sexual activity does not just include sexual intercourse but also sexting, sending nude photos, touching intimate body parts, as well as mutual masturbation. In some states, teens can legally date anyone they want once they reach 16, but in other states, they don’t have that choice until they turn 18.

There is no legislation prohibiting you two from dating . If you’re truly curious about whether or not it’s legal for a 17-year-old to have sex with a 21-year-old, the answer is “it depends.” It is totally depends on your geographical location. Is it also unlawful for a 16-year-old to date a 20-year-old? No, Guys Only it is not illegal for a 20-year-old to “DATE” a sixteen-year-old. A date is defined as an outing with a partner to a movie, supper, or a dance. 2 years age gap at your stages of life is pretty big, in a couple years it wouldn’t be a big deal, but right now I doubt you guys are compatible based on that.

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I will say that it is definitely a different time for you all now . When I was a junior in HS I dated a guy that was 3.5 yrs older than me. It’s not always black and white with the age difference.

What If The Parents Are Okay With It?

If you don’t feel ready to settle down with someone in her twenties, dating someone older can feel like a compromise. You might be able to find a different kind of partner in someone in her late teens who is still exploring her own identity. California, however, does not have a Romeo and Juliet law. Anyone who has sexual intercourse with someone else under the age of consent can be charged with a crime.

Sometimes an age-gap can benefit a couple since women tend to mature quicker on average. At 18 and 23 though, things are still pretty murky, so it will take some tender loving care to move past this obstacle together. This positive attitude toward dating is really refreshing.

Talk openly to your daughter about substance abuse. And remember, if you drink heavily or use drugs, you’re telling them it’s okay. Many teens talk online, which can easily develop into a false sense of intimacy. Consequently, they’re more likely to meet people they’ve chatted with, but never met because they don’t view them as strangers. Create clear rules about online dating and stay up to date on any apps your teen might be tempted to use, like Tinder.

However, since it represents the amount of time that a person or object has been in the physical world, it will always be represented as a number. Similarly, a 50-year-old may have the maturity of a 10-year-old. And I think the age gap is sorta fine, but the fact that you’re feeling weird should be the only thing that matters. Most IMPORTANTLY, do you feel like an equal, a peer, to that person ? If not (and it doesn’t sound like you do tbh), run the other way.

What is the acceptable minimum age for a dating partner? When this question comes up in conversation, someone inevitably cites the half your age plus seven rule. This rule states that by dividing your own age by two and then adding seven you can find the socially acceptable minimum age of anyone you want to date. The age of consent is how old someone has to be in order to legally consent to engage in sexual conduct. Whenever one person engages in sexual conduct with someone else who is under the age of consent, it is a sex crime. Why are YOUR parents telling you who you can be in a relationship with?

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I dated a 19 year old at 17 and all I can say is, «Don’t Do It.» I’m 19 and in college now and I can’t imagine looking at a high schooler the way my ex looked at me. It may be a slightly different story for me, considering that the age of consent where I live is 18 but he essentially groomed me to be his ideal sexual partner for when I turned 18. A couple months after I turned 18, he broke up with me and started trying to get together with my 16 year old friend. I see the weirdness here as less to do with age and more to do with where you are in school/life right now. If you were a younger-than-usual college freshman or she were an older-than-usual HS senior or recent graduate, it wouldn’t be so strange.

In many cases, 16 seems to be an appropriate age for kids, but it may be perfectly fine for a mature 15-year-old to go on a date or to have a 16-year-old wait a year or two. Take into account their maturity and sense of responsibility. Encourage group dates and talk to your teen frequently. Here are some fun first-date ideas to discuss with your teen. With the introduction of social media, the dating world can be more exciting but also more complicated and challenging. According to this general dating age rule, a 17-year-old should not date anyone younger than 15 ½ years of age.

You need a girl who can classify/differentiate between your (manic?) actions and how they dont necessarily define your emotions. She needs to know when to let it go, laugh it off, or just accept it and help you through. At this point it doesnt look like shes got much respect or empathy for how you struggle. Let her go, find a girl who can live you above all else.

However, when the 20 year old and the 17 year old want to engage in the physical aspects of the relationship, the 20 year old likely finds him or herself at risk. Unless the 20 year old is taking the 17 year old places against the wishes of the parents or is trespassing on the family property, there is little to worry about from the legal standpoint. As noted above, the “dating” part of the interaction between someone 20 and someone 17 isn’t illegal, per se. It is important for the 18 year old to find out what the definition is of “intimate physical contact” where he or she lives. Unless the 18 year old is taking the 17 year old places against the wishes of the parents or is trespassing on the family property, there is little to worry about from the legal standpoint.

I am, in equal measures, furious, horrified, embarrassed, ashamed and desperate. This new boyfriend is older than my wife, who is 46. My daughter wants me to meet this man, but I am too shocked and angry that a man of his age and with his responsibilities could behave in this manner. I am too embarrassed to talk to my friends about it. If you’re the 23-year-old in this union, you probably have a bit more life and relationship experience on your back as opposed to your 18-year-old partner. You’ve got a great grasp on what to expect when it comes to dating, and they’re still breaking into the scene and learning.